So rewinding back a bit, I said change usually only happens in tiny steps. If I think back to school and the changes that happened, at the time they seemed enormous, but in hindsight they were all indistinguishable steps from one place to another. As the years changed, I acquired new friends, with old friends staying around. I learnt new things and took up new hobbies, so I guess, things changed, but not in the catastrophic way I expected. When my friends left school, I stayed in touch. No disaster. When I left school, the world continued. When I went to university, I made new friends, I started doing new things, but I did not lose all of my previous life. I saw a little less of some old friends because I was too busy to keep in touch as often as we had done previously. I hardly noticed this change. There was so much going on. And that worry of what would happen when I was grown up? I am now 23. I wish I could go back and tell my 17 year old self that nothing would really change. I don’t live with my parents any more. I have a job. I go to work. It all seems far removed from the life of the 17 year old me, and yet really nothing has changed; I am still me, I still like reading books and going to music gigs. I am still in touch with many of my old close friends but have made many more friends. I guess looking back, what would have been important to think about is what really mattered, what really made my life what it was? At 17, was it the building I lived in or the life I lived? Was it the tasks that occupied me all day or the way I went about those tasks? Sometimes that old saying, seems so true, “You could not step twice into the same river; for other waters are ever flowing” – the river is always there, but never the same.
If perhaps I have not been so clear in my explanation I would urge you to think on two things; Things that change often change for the better, so embrace change, it won’t make life catastrophically different. And, when things are not changing for the better, remember you are still there, you will always be there, you are the continuity as change happens, and you can rely on yourself through change. All just my perspective, but I wish I had worried less about the changes in my life!!